So in my kitchen they all know I'm not THAT girl ... But when you have to deal with the same guy saying the same thing over and over again there comes a time when you just want it to stop ... It's not that I am a girl ... It's not that I am "ragging it" but you don't really want to hear everyday how you'd "never go back" ... Most of my guys I can let them roll right off my back but one I just can't do it anymore ... Today he picks up my chef knife, full well knowing it's mine and that I don't have a cheap set of knives and decides he is going to open a #10 can of ketchup with it ... Like serious WTF?????
I not the bitch in the kitchen ... And by that I mean I'm not the one who's always complaining and I'm also not the one constantly crying about things, but there does come the day when you really just don't want to deal with it. The question therein is ... How when everyday it is what it is do you get to "make it stop" ??
you can't go to someone and say listen today isn't that day so can we chill cuz as is with any "boys club" you're going to get more razzing for that ... You can't go to management because it's going to be any issue of yoh always play into it and now it's an issue ...
So the best you can do it suck it up and move on with life ... Because if I know one thing it's that my guys will ALWAYS be the bigger bitches than me.
Using you knife as can opener is over the top. No self respecting chef puts up with that. I have been a chef for more then 20 years and they boys respect me because of what I can do. They have had me save their backsides, they have seen me cry and still make it though service, they have seen me laugh off stuff that made them want to cry they have saved me on occasion too. That is what a team does. If you want to be a full fledged member of the team at some point you are going to have it more uncomfortable or embarrassing for that one to hassle you than to show you respect. They will take it in stride if you say "today is not the day do screw with me" if you are normally reasonable and say it with conviction. Don't ask him to chill. Tell him to back himself up. The good guys will respect you more for it and the few who are not professional enough to respect the work and those who do it well - do you really care what they think?
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